Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Kids these days...

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With social networking more prevalent in our lives today than ever before, things like social norms are bound to change. While listening to the radio on my way to work, a morning show was talking about how one of the DJs wife found out an old childhood friend just got married... over facebook. The morning show went on to talk about how rude that is and that people don't have the decency to call anyone anymore.

I was completely in shock. Now, this is where I am coming from. I am a shy person, first off. Second, when I got married, I told my close relatives and close friends, and other people found out one way or another... We didn't have a big ceremony or expect gifts from anyone, we just got married.

I would have felt so awkward calling up people I don't normally call and saying, "Oh hey... just to let you know, I am getting married..." To me, that sounds like you are asking for some kind or recognition or a gift. Now, if the person if a close friend or family member, then of course you should let them know you are getting married.

How can people find it rude if someone doesn't tell you they are getting married? The wedding/marriage isn't about you, it's about them. You don't know their reasons for getting married, because people do get married for many different reasons, and you don't know how they are planning on celebrating either! I can understand being upset if you are close to them and didn't know, or they DID have a big wedding ceremony and you weren't invited. But honestly, I can't fathom why you would be upset otherwise.

Don't get me wrong, I think big weddings are fun, and if you want to do that, power to you. But being upset over finding out some acquaintance got married over facebook? Come on... One DJ even said, "Don't expect me to get you a gift if I found out you got married online." That's like saying people only get married for gifts!

What do you think? Am I crazy... is announcing you're married over facebook "rude"? Should major moments in my life be shared with everyone I know? Am I a big weirdo hermit who is actually hurting peoples feelings??? AHHHH!


Sarah said...

I totally see where you're coming from. I think we've turned wedding announcements into a way to tell people that we are expecting presents from them and for me that's so tragic because wedding announcements should be a way to share with those you love your exciting news. For me I called my family and friends personally when I got engaged because it was exciting! Other than that I didn't really do any notifying. I think it's silly for people to get offended. Facebook is a way for people to find out stuff they never would have known with friends their not that close to ya know. I think it's really silly to get offended in that case. I think you were smart to keep your wedding small!

On a completely different subject. I absolutely love your blog layout. Did you do it yourself?!
Wearing It On My Sleeves

Marisa said...

@Sarah That's so sweet. I did design it myself and it is always a work in progress as I am constantly changing it. I just checked out your blog and it's awesome! Count me as a new regular reader!